Monday, March 23, 2015

Homesick Happens

I'm sorry if this comes off as a rant...it's not meant to be one. Just, more of a getting it off my chest, and if you want to send out a little prayer, or good thought for me, I'd appreciate it.

I'm on the opposite side of the country from people I've known and loved for nearly all of my life. It's a weird adjustment because I am still, fighting how different this is (even it's been long enough to not be doing/feeling this way). While I'll joke about missing food places such as Mexican food (it's not good here...#SendHelp...#SendBurritos), Korean food (#SendBibimbap) and of course, my beloved In-N-Out (#SendDoubleDouble #NoHouseSaucePlease). There's some weird things...like vegetables are more expensive than meat...and there's a lot of up-charging that goes on out here.

On the plus side is, it's a new experience, and I've made some great new friends. I've been working out a lot (five times a week). I am with my husband and we are in a house, versus a sardine-can-sized apartment. We have so much more space, and we have Imogen and Thorin--which in CA, we couldn't really afford a place where we could have a big dog!

But I'm missing my family and friends. My sister had twins one month before I left, and I miss just hanging out with her and my youngest brother and my parents. I miss my car (which I plan on having shipped soon).

I miss driving/walking down the street to things too. It seems like things are so far away from our house. I miss the ocean with waves. OK, I can walk to the beach here, which is pretty awesome...but there's no waves...can't win 'em all, right? ;)

I also miss the oppurtunities that Southern California has to offer. There's more variety.

P-Cola isn't bad though...but you know:
Homesick Happens

26 comments:

  1. I'm originally from Oceanside and miss it all the time! I've lived in Ohio (ew), Florida (okay), Maryland (better-ish), and now Michigan (meh). But I always find myself craving some waves and actual, good burritos. SoCal is just like that!

    Visiting definitely helps, and being sent lots of pictures from family and loved ones, talking with those people all the time, and finding little comforts in a new place.

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  2. Aww.. I've never moved from where I am, but I have friends who have gone far away and I miss them. So yeah.. Try to stay positive though! Home is always going to be 'Home'... * hug*

    -G

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  3. I've never been homesick in the traditional sense. I thought I was an alien when I was a kid, so I never felt like my home was actually my home. It was more like long-term camp during my lifetime-long mission on Earth. I would get a feeling kind of like homesickness though, for my home planet, where I imagined all my idiosyncracies were understood and appreciated.


    Now, I find home in small experiences and in other people. There are so many ways to connect with the people who are home, but my favorite is through snail mail. It just feels the most real.


    That said though, it sucks being in a place more boring than you're used to. Coming back to Williamsburg VA after New York NY was ROUGH! Where all the ethnic food at? Why everything gotta close at 5pm? It's rough buddy, I feel you. As a korean gal pal, I would whip you up some bibimbap right meow if I could! Sending tons of love and positive vibes your way!


    -- Harper
    harperhoney.com

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  4. Oh Joie we miss you too. I can imagine how hard it must be - there is just no place like San Diego!

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  5. Ahhh...lots of prayers and love to you doll, I understand how that feels, I am on the other side of the world to all my family...some days its ok and others it can be tough, hang in there and all will be grand!! You are doing awesome!! *hugs*

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  6. Awwww it's totally normal to feel homesick! I moved last year and even though I'm only about an hour away from my family I miss them like CRAZY all the time. I'm glad you're making new friends and exercising though!

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  7. Dude! I swore I was an alien for like the first 11 years of my life! I swore I was adopted, and was an alien from outer space (I blame Gonzo in Muppet Babies for this).

    Yeah the lack of diversity is I think the biggest thing for me. The cool thing is I've cooked some foods I miss, and--though it's not the same--I'm learning something new and that's nice (but I just can't seem to get carñe asada down).

    I am trying to find the pieces that are home here. It's kind of hard but extremely rewarding!
    Thank you for the encouragement! *hugs*

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  8. Thank you! And an hour away can feel just as far! My college was that far from my parents and the homesick feeling really only differs as far as the ability to drive. It's the same feelings I think. The whole change, mixed with different, mixed with nostalgia "cocktail!" The excitement of it all is grand, but the homesick part feels like a bad hangover (I am sticking with my analogy lol).

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  9. I feel you!! Damn, New York has so much Japanese food and Wburg has almost none. I can't cook a lot of that stuff, but I make filipino chicken adobo all the time now.


    I've heard carne asada can come out great with the help of a crockpot. idk if that's helpful.


    I hope you find more home <3


    -- Harper
    harperhoney.com

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  10. Sorry you are feeling homesick. I can't offer any kind of ideas because I've lived in my city all my life. But yay to making new friends!! And I will figure out how to send you a burrito from here. Otherwise, we shall hang out at SDCC and EAT ALL THE GOOD FOOD!

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  11. Awww ((HUGS)) No suggestions here as I have never moved more than one state away. Glad you are making new friends there in PCola though!

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  12. Moving can be such an adjustment. Even for someone like me who's been everywhere, I still sometimes long for things from a distant shore... Hang in there. ^__^ It will get better. My immediate family is in Australia, so far away from Switzerland. I miss them a lot, and it's hard since I can't visit them that often... Oh well. ^^ We'll manage!

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  13. This feeling is totally normal, and I'm sorry you're going through it, Joie! My heart goes out to you because I was in your place once. I lived in NC and my parents were in Oregon. Life was hard because I felt just like you did. I couldn't walk anywhere and I didn't have my own car either. I would sometimes avoid talking to my family because it made me miss them more. If they had set up Skype and we had videochatted often it might have been different. I don't really have any advice because I made things really hard for myself during that time, so I can't say for sure what will or won't help. If I had tried to do more to not feel so lonely it might have helped, but even then the homesickness and missing family doesn't just go away. It sucks a lot. But what does help is being around the husband and furkids you love and making a life and a home together. :)

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  14. *Hugs* I know how it feels, I have family spread out all over the country and it's hard not all being in the same place! But making new friends and new memories should help ease some of the sickness :)

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  15. First of all, sending you ALL of the hugs! I don't think there's ever a set 'not allowed to feel homesick anymore' time either - perfectly normal and nothing to feel bad about. I know I'm still living at home, so can't say much, but when I was across the country for college, it didn't matter that I'd done it for 3 years already, I would still have days or weeks of feeling homesick now and then. It just happens, sometimes unexpectedly.

    And I hope you know how missed you are back here, too, and you can always call anytime! As you mentioned, the positives are always good to stay focused on (more friends, more space - omg, Imogen and Thorin are adorable! - being with the person you love) and exercise for sure helps. Also, I know it's not the same, but maybe this could bring some semblance of SoCal fast food to Florida: http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/in-n-out-burger-copycat-recipe/

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  16. Aww! Brooke! I miss you too dude! Thank you for the In-N-Out recipe! I plan on trying to make those this week! I was hoping to come out to visit before July, but IDK if that's going to be possible!


    It really does happen rather unexpectedly. Thank's for your sweet words!
    **HUGS**

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  17. Awww! *hugs* Thank you Sarah! It does help a lot making new memories!

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  18. Thank you Kelsey! I'm sorry you got homesick too! That's a really far distance (cross-country! So far!!!) too! Yeah, not having MY car (we have the Tenor's) is not helping I think, but, we're making it work. I do think having it would help my homesickness a bit though.
    Thank you! :)

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  19. Oh man! That's a huge distance!
    LOL! We have some San Diego sand and I put it on our coffee table last night so I can "look" at a San Diego any time lol! (PS. CA sand is completely different than where I am in FL).

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  20. YES! And Double YES!!!! We have to at least get lunch! You'll be at the blogger meet up too yes?


    Dude! A burrito would be awesome! I'll probably cry tears of joy...I mean Joie lol ;P

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  21. I am finding some comforts (and Foodie Comforts) here! Like this place called McGuire's is AMAZING!!! Such good food and drink!!!
    But yeah, Southern CA Mexican food can't be beat lol!

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  22. Thank you Kizzy! The mix of ups and downs of missing home are really odd! At points I'm glad I'm achieving goals I wasn't getting done at home. But, then I also miss my family and friends.
    Thank you **hugs**

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  23. Oh man...this brought back memories and feels! Big hugs! And I hope you manage through it. Way to find other things to make you happy out there. I was a CA girl transplanted into RI for awhile....I didn't make it long (only a year). Ultimately, I couldn't handle the distance from my family and my reason for being there kinda fell apart. Good luck to you! Make sure to plan lots of regular skype dates and get your friends out to visit you as often as possible.

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  24. Thank you Jamila!
    Man, I know the "'Cross Country Trek" is hard!
    On the plus side, LA is a huge city and has a lot of things happening like NYC...but I know they're different too. I hope the adjustment is an easy one for you! Two of my best friends live there, as does most of my extended family! Good luck on your move!

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  25. Thank you Meghan! And I imagine RI is a huge change! Especially in weather yeah? I'm sorry things didn't work out. And Skype/Google hangouts/face time are the BEST!

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